30
October
2008
Are you happy living in the matrix or do you want to open yours eyes and become reconnected to your unique genius? Which pill will you take? For more information listen to this podast, go to www.thelifegym.com.au or e-mail eugene@thelifegym.com.au
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13
September
2008
This idea was bought for $25,000 at the turn of the 20th Century by Charles M. Schwab. Listen to this idea for FREE, use it for the next 21 days and let me know what you think the idea is worth. Just e-mail eugene@thelifegym.com.au
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5
September
2008
Want success at work. Lisen to the 20 common traits that hold us back from becoming more successful at work. Do you recognise any of these traits in yourself? What did you learn about yourself? If you want to share your learning or you want support to take you on to the next level, e-mail eugene@thelifegym.com.au or visit www.thelifegym.com.au
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30
August
2008
There are times in our lives when our confidence takes a hit. We can be shocked when we realise there is a mismatch between our expectations and reality. This can happen at a performance review at work or when a spouse asks for a divorce. We can be surprised or even immobilised by an event that has given us insight into the way others perceive us.
What we do next is critical. The natural reaction is to go straight into denial and the perception of ourselves can even be enhanced through this process. We may feel there is no reason to make any changes and in fact, the change needs to be made by others. Staying in denial does not serve us.
Making the next step is like taking a leap of faith. We become aware of the changes we need to make and we understand the levels of our competence. This awareness transforms into acceptance of reality and an understanding that change is neccessary. We have to adopt new attitudes and habits.
The acceptance phase is painful and if we are not careful, we may choose to fall back into denial where it is more comfortable. The good news though is that once we have accepted that change must take place, we move into action, we practice new approaches and we try to do things differently.
This phase is known as the praxis or experimentation phase. The important aspect of this phase is the learning we take on from the feedback we receive when we do things differently. This is where we generate new insights and breakthroughs.
We then search for meaning to understand the reasons for achieving success o failure. We create new paradigms and personal theories which we then integrate into new skills and behaviours.
This model is adapted from Adams et al (1976) and is called the Transition Curve. Although described here as a linear process, it is the case that we often slip back into denial without moving through the stages of awareness, acceptance, praxis, search for meaning and integration.
A personal or executive coach will support u through this journey and guide us through to integration so that the changes we detremine to make are embedded into ournew life to achieve our desired goals.
If you wish to talk to me about coaching please call me on 02 8006 1065.
If you have any questions about executive coaching or personal development please do not hesitate to e-mail eugene@thelifegym.com.au and I will answer your questions within 24 hours.
Have a great week.
Eugene
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15
August
2008
Listen to Barry’s journey before, during and after the Authentic Leadership Program Retreat in part 2 of this interview. If you would like to learn more about New Generation NLP go to www.holigral.com
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15
August
2008
In this interview with the founder of the new generation of NLP, Steven Saunders and his partner Bartholomeus NE Kalshoven we discover a new technology that is about to take the world by storm. If you thought NLP was a wave of powerful personal development with the likes of Anthony Robbins skillfully harnessing the energy, then ALP is a tsunami waiting to happen.
Be one of the first to hear about this extraordinary technology. I am lucky enough to have come into contact with Steven and Bartholomeus. Why not share in that luck and listen to their new brand of powerful techniques to realise human potential for us all.
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9
August
2008
We are swamped with information on healthy living. We know to eat fruit and vegetables every day, we know we have to exercise regularly, we know we shouldn’t smoke, we know we should “enjoy alcohol responsibly” and we know we should remain calm when all around us are losing their heads.We know this, but we (or at least most of us) ignore this advice except maybe for the first week in January when the guilt of the previous year is washed away with a 7 day detoxification plan or gym membership.
So what should we do differently? How can we break the cycle of action and relapse? Here are 5 simple steps to better health. To succeed you must complete each step thoroughly.
1. Take 100% responsibility for your health
Take on with all your heart, mind and soul that you are 100% responsible for your health. On one hand this is challenging especially if you are currently enduring a serious illness. Nevertheless, by taking on this belief you will feel you have complete control of your health. Today’s health status is determined by yesterday’s habits. We can do nothing about this though, so we must instead look at how we change today’s habits to determine tomorrow’s health.
By taking 100% responsibility for tomorrow’s health we take the first step to avoid the negative health outcomes which currently lay ahead for us if we continue to over-eat, smoke, binge drink and live a life full of stress.
2. Make your health goals inspirational and clear
Make time to sit down and write down your emotional and physical health goals. Express these goals in a way that inspires you. Write them down as if you have already achieved the goals. Read them every morning and every night. Check in with yourself to make sure they are inspiring. Make a Mind Map of your goals and put them on your fridge. Build a vision board of your goals and put them where you will see them every day.
Make your goals unique to you. Tell others about your goals. Shout your goals out loud. Live, breath and feel your goals at all times.
Avoid the mistake people often make when setting health goals. Instead of saying “I want to give up smoking”, say “I am a non-smoker!” Instead of “I want to lose 12 kg” say “I am a size 10!” or “I weigh 60 kg”
Make your goal statement positive and written as if you have already achieved the goal.
Then, tell the unconscious brain. The unconscious brain doesn’t set goals; instead it drives us towards the goals we set. Meditate, visualise or just plainly imagine every morning and every evening how you feel, what you see and what you smell when you have achieved your goals. Imagine every detail and make it as vivid as possible.
3. Plan and take health actions
Sit down, once a week and plan your strategies and actions to achieve your goals. What steps do you need to take to achieve your goals? What actions do you need to complete to take you closer to your goals? When are you going to take action?
We know what we have to do. We know what diet we should be eating or at least where to look. We know we need to exercise, we know we need to relax, we even know of ways to become a non-smoker.
Get your diary, commit to the actions. These are appointments you are making for you and your future. Do not let yourself down if something else comes along. If you have committed to go for a walk at 6 am on Thursday, then you go for that walk.
After 3 weeks, these new actions become habits. These new habits will take over from the old negative habits. But we must promise ourselves to take the action we plan to take. Without this commitment we lose integrity with ourselves. Without integrity we lose respect for ourselves. And without respect we care less for our future health.
4. Love it
When we take positive health actions, we take on a new lease of life. Anchor positive emotions to these actions. If you are going for a power walk, enjoy the view, smell the roses and smile at passersby. If you are eating a meal full of greens then remind yourself of the goodness entering your body and how that goodness will burst into life in the form of energy.
Do what you’ve got to do to enjoy these actions. Think positively; keep a positive posture, smile and even laugh. When asked by others: how are you? Tell them “I’m sensational!” and notice how you feel and also notice how they react.
A positive attitude is infectious. Spread the infection. By thinking positively you will feel positive, and by feeling positive you will act positively.
5. Celebrate success
Every day, look back on your new actions and pat yourself on the back. Well done! Keep a journal keep statistics, record your weight and monitor your actions. Tell your partner and tell your friends how you are going. Celebrate every day, every milestone and be proud of the action you are taking.
Remind yourself that you are taking action today so that you will watch your grandchildren grow and have their own children. You will avoid those chronic diseases, you will have a great quality of life when you are over 70 and you will live the life you deserve for as long as you intend.
A good innings is over a 100. Let’s aim to live that long with good physical and mental health. And when they ask us, “what’s your secret?” We’ll tell them about our 5 simple steps to a healthy life.
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29
July
2008
The simple science of time management is: you can’t manage time.
Time is constant; we can’t speed it up or slow it down. We have no control of time, but we can manage our personal energy and we can decide to improve the use of our personal energy to move us closer to our goals.
All day, every day we make two significant decisions. We choose to strengthen or weaken our energy and we choose to take action towards or away from our desired goals. 90% of our behaviour is determined by habits. There are behaviours we do automatically and without thinking. If we want to be more effective with the time we are given then we must change the habits that drain our personal energy and eliminate those habits that take us further away from our desired goals.
Simply put we must transform our negative habits into positive habits.
When we focus our efforts on managing time we place our energy and time on something we cannot change. We lose power and become a victim to time. “I would love to do ……….…… but I have not time” are the words of someone who has given up their personal power.
We have all been there but thankfully there is way out of this form of thinking. So, how do we transform negative habits into positive habits?
Here is a simple 5 step formula:
1. Clarify your goals. Make them clear and inspiring. Write them up; build a vision board or draw a mind map. Read them every morning and every night. Keep them alive every day. Make sure you unconscious mind knows your goals. It is the unconscious mind that will power you towards your goal. Your conscious mind will forget them in 20 seconds.
2. Take an inventory of the habits that are taking away your personal power or taking you away from your goals. What are the negative habits? List them down and identify the three habits that you need to transform immediately.
3. Define the three new positive habits that you will need to take on right away. Identify 3 actions per habit you need to take TODAY. Do it now!
4. It takes 3 weeks to develop a new habit. The first week is tough but achievable if you remain focused, committed and motivated. Find a buddy to work with, to support you in your own personal challenge.
5. After 3 weeks, choose three more negative habits from the list to transform into a positive habit. Make this routine a formula for your personal success. Today’s habits are tomorrow’s results. Our conscious mind also known as or working memory may want to change, but unless we change the way our unconscious brain works we will fail to eliminate our negative habits. We can identify our negative habits once we are clear on our goals.
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28
July
2008
What do you feel when you hear the word “change”? Does it excite you or does it fill you with anxiety and dread? Nothing stays the same and nothing is permanent. Let’s take time to reflect on our own lives. Imagine if nothing had changed since 1961, or 1971, or how about 1981 or even 1991. Obviously technology has changed significantly in that time, but so have we. We have grown up, loved several times, lost family and friends, started new jobs, achieved promotion, suffered illnesses, earned money, lost money, bought our homes, seen our children born and watched as they made the same mistakes we made.
Nothing stays the same, and we should thank God or the Universe or whoever is in charge that this is the case. However, change gets harder as we get older. “You can’t teach an old dog a new trick” they say. Or can you? When we are born, our brains are hungry learning machines. For the first 5 years of our lives our brains are like sponges. We absorb everything we hear, touch, touch, taste and feel. The brain wants to learn, it wants to solve problems and it wants to adapt to its environment.
So what happens? Why does our appetite for learning diminish over time? It’s simple. We learn only as much as we need to know to survive. We are constrained by the teaching techniques of our education system. And we protect ourselves from the hurt created when we expose ourselves. Creativity is stifled and expression contained. This is true for some anyway.
Most of us know about the genius of the young Mozart. At the age of 4 his father taught him a few minuets which he could play without fault, in time and with the greatest delicacy. At the age of five he was already composing pieces such as Andante and Allegro in C. Mozart grew to become one of the greatest and arguably the greatest composer of all time. So, it’s just the few then that are geniuses? Or is there genius in us all? Do the few search for the key that unlocks the genius within while the rest of us learn to hide the key from everyone including ourselves?
Let’s look at some facts about the brain. 83% of the brain mass is not conscious. It is outside of our awareness. Our conscious brain has a speed of impulse which can reach up to 140 mph. Not bad eh? However, the unconscious brain reaches speeds of over 100,000 mph. The conscious brain processes information at 2,000 bits per second. Yes you’ve guessed it; the unconscious brain is faster at processing information. Much faster. It processes information at no less than 400,000,000,000 (400 billion) bits per second. The unconscious brain has control of up to 98% of our control and perception. The unconscious brain does not set goals, but powerfully it executes the goals it is provided with, without judgment. The unconscious brain does not perceive the past or the future. Everything is happening now. The conscious brain has a short term memory, for some of us it is as much as 20 seconds. The unconscious brain remembers every experience forever. It forgets nothing. So, when we want to change should we tap into our conscious or subconscious brain? Well of course we should tap into both. The conscious brain often referred to as our working memory or 20 cents computer, is useful for determining the change we think we want and for setting goals. The subconscious brain or the “billion dollar computer” is the power room that drives us forward or holds us back.
Aha! Our subconscious holds us back at times. Have you ever procrastinated and wondered why you couldn’t pick up that phone, or take that action. You feel uneasy but can’t put your finger on it. That’s your subconscious, the part of the brain that is all powerful and remembers everything. It remembers every call you made and the actions you took and feels the negative emotions associated with those experiences as if it were today. So what’s needed? We could spend time and money on years and years of psychotherapy and meditation (I’m not knocking either you understand). For me, I have come across the new generation of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) known as ALP or Authentic Leadership Program.
Most of us will have heard of Anthony Robbins and Christopher Howard. These guys are exceptional people; they transform lives with their own utility of NLP. Where NLP helps to change the way we think and therefore change the actions and results from our thinking, ALP goes to the heart of our thoughts. To the person that was born without the baggage of set-backs, trauma’s and unhealthy learning. ALP guides us through the walls of our world to think outside the box, to lose the box altogether. ALP widens our horizons so we become the people others want to follow.
When we are authentic, we build trust. When we build trust, we build powerful relationships at home, at work and in business. Authenticity cannot be faked. We either are or are not authentic. As the slogan of a well known advert in the UK states “it does exactly what it says on the tin”. If you are interested in learning more please do not hesitate to call me on 02 8006 1065 or e-mail me at eugene@thelifegym.com.au
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